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Not liked or Hated Questions

What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

 

The most unwanted questions are about very personal questions,
such as age, partnership, when to have children,
but also politics, which party one is for or who to vote for.
Further considered inappropriate is the question about how much one earns
and sometimes anyway if one wants to know more about what someone does for a living.

 

When people are among themselves, at receptions or at work, in cafés or restaurants, there is an unspoken rule that certain subjects should not, or cannot, be discussed and that certain questions would certainly not be asked. It comes down to ensuring that no wrong ball is thrown or no one would be put in a difficult position, and certainly that no heated discussions would disturb the peace of the company.

Today, lots of youngsters seem to forget that there should be the decency to respect the unspoken rules in society.

There are certain topics that a conscious or right-thinking person knows it is best not to bring up in the circle of friends or during a group discussion or at the table.

For example, a lot of people avoid discussing politics and religion at the table or during meetings. These are the most common topics that most people want to avoid. Above all, they themselves do not want to be asked which political party they like or which church they belong to and what they believe. For many it is also very difficult to recognise propaganda, wishful thinking, political against social talk, fake news against real facts.

Strangely enough, we have come to a time where the word “woke” is worn high in the flags, and everybody seems to have his or her idea of words that may not be used. We are being whipped around our ears with the term “woke”. Every night on television, there are rounds of conversations talking about this and that, that may or may not be, may or may not be woke.
In terms of language, this craze of “woke” concerns its totally frenzied absurdities, where people should realise that they are creating a world of censor.

At its core, being “woke” is about being aware and understanding of the various forms of oppression, injustice, and privilege that exist in our society. It is about acknowledging that our society and its systems are deeply flawed and that these issues need to be addressed. Being “woke” means having a strong sense of social consciousness and being actively involved in the fight for justice and equality.

Being “woke” means being willing to challenge the status quo, speak out against injustice, and stand up for those who are marginalized and oppressed. It means being an active advocate for justice and equality, and understanding the interconnectedness of our society and the way that privilege and oppression intersect. {True meaning of being “Woke!”}

But the steps to oppose the incorrect threaten to go incorrectly far, wrongly attributing false charges to words and writing them off as inadmissible. The latest deletions of certain words in Roald Dahl’s books is a splendid example. Discussions around it ran high and even raised the question of whether it could be even allowed to be talked about.
Very many books we grew up with, have today ended up blacklisted because of their multitude of disallowed terms and words. In some countries, certain children’s and picture books are now not even lendable to minus 16-year-olds.

With the whole woke business also came the matter of “race” and colour of skin, as well as the objection to talk about refugees and asylum seekers, as if by not talking about them they would not exist, or we would not have to find solutions for them.

Avoiding certain questions around serious issues shows, in my opinion, a certain cowardice or deliberate indifference.

But those who want to ask questions to somebody should also realise and accept if the other person makes it known that he or she prefers not to answer that question, and not pursue it further. The questioner is then expected to behave ethically and respectfully towards the questioned person.

It might be very good not being offensive to a person of another race, but not daring to question him or her about certain elements of their culture shall not help to come to an understanding of that culture and willingness to be interested in it out of full conviction and respect for that person and for the perhaps foreign or different culture.

The whole woke affair and inability to raise certain issues today does no good to the further development of our society nor to getting to know and appreciate other people and cultures. Instead of uniting is the woke rage more diving people.

Today lots of people are fed up by hearing talks about nature, globalisation, culture wars and other wars and as such do not want to hear questions about ecological, economical or political matters. At the same time not so many are interested in politics, and if the politicians are not careful, soon the majority of the population shall not wanting to hear or do any with politics. Now there are already lots of people who do not want to hear the question to go to the voting ballot. But, when no turning around, soon, the majority shall not want to hear that question to bring out a vote.

I hate to see the end of democracy and would not like to hear that question if we reached such point of failed democratic systems.

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Preceding

  1. Absurdity of present “woke” rage: The rewriting of Dahl
  2. Why censoring Roald Dahl is a dangerous step
  3. What about irreverence and sharp-edged spirit of the original text
  4. The Telegraph for Monday 21 November 2022
  5. The Telegraph Frontpage 2023 February 20
  6. The Telegraph Frontpage 2023 February 21
  7. The Telegraph Frontpage Wednesday 2023 February 22
  8. The Telegraph for the sabbath of 2023 February 24-25
  9. New term names at London School of Economics
  10. Unique💗

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Additional reading

  1. An A-Z for a world which has to change.
  2. Truth is not a Philosophical discussion
  3. Thoughts tinged with triviality
  4. What would you do if…? Continued trial
  5. Coming to the end of 2018
  6. More care needed for older getting population
  7. White versus black in a woke world
  8. How far does this “Woke” world wants to go
  9. Holiday time reading time
  10. Landslides to be expected in political circus
  11. Migration, a story of two worlds and a play toy of the media
  12. When Tragedy Strikes…
  13. One-Liner Wednesday — On Bad Terms
  14. Some one or something to fear #2 Attitude and Reactions

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Published by Marcus Ampe

Retired dancer, choreographer, choreologist Founder of the Dance impresario office and archive: Danscontact-Dansarchief plus the Association for Bible scholars, the Lifestyle magazines "Stepping Toes" and "From Guestwriters" and creator of the site "Messiah for all". - Gepensioneerd danser, choreograaf, choreoloog. Stichter van Danscontact-Dansarchief plus van de Vereniging voor Bijbelvorsers, de Lifestyle magazines "Stepping Toes" en "From Guestwriters" en maker van de site "Messiah for all".

6 thoughts on “Not liked or Hated Questions

  1. Very well-thought out post. Yes, I often hear this definition when I inform people I am not “Woke”, the problem is that the self-describing “Woke” people do not even adhere to this definition!

    As you state, we cannot avoid the difficult questions, but simultaneously, we cannot assume that we know the culture of another. My culture is far more similar to a refugee from Ethiopia than the typical white American, and yet I am both white and American.

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